This time it's a big one...35 years married! How can that be? I remember it like it was yesterday. In fact it was the weekend after Easter, purposely chosen to be in the Octave of Easter, and it was so lovely with all the lilies. The wedding itself was beautiful but, and I can admit this now, liturgically it was not what I would do now. It was the 70's, and, well, lets just say it was a time of liturgical experimentation, and as a member of the parish folk group I had all these great ideas as far as music. I won't say what was sung at the Mass, but I didn't have an organ, only a guitar played by a very nice young woman who was probably very happy that she didn't have to sing anything too religious. I chalk it up to the times. .
Back to the anniversary. Thirty-five years is a long time and we had our ups and downs and we're still together. Of course we are, we made a vow before God to stay together, something many people today don't take seriously. We brought three wonderful children into the world and now are pondering what to do as empty nesters (well sort of).
Now I am in the process of preparing my daughter's wedding this coming October. They just finished pre-Cana and they understand that the vows they will take are serious and meant for life. They understand that the wedding Mass is the most important part of preparing their wedding. That's why liturgist Mom is doing most of the work (that and the fact that she lives 3,000 miles away from the parish where the wedding will take place). She is choosing the readings but is allowing me to do the rest, with her approval of course. And this time the music will be appropriate...and there will be no guitars.
By the way, we've put on a few pounds since that picture was taken 35 years ago. We are grayer (under my hair coloring), a bit of lines around the face, and maybe we are more tired at times. But we continue, knowing that a marriage is more than a social arrangement, more than just for the happy times. We have our health, but who knows what is around the corner and in what ways our vows will be tested as we grow old together. All I know is that we have each other.